The West Coast Version of a New York Sex Goddess

A sex Goddess is “hot as hell, and she knows it,” according to “How to be a Sex Goddess” author Sarah Tomczak. “She’s the kind of girl who sashays down the street like she owns it, walking tall in her killer heels and classy threads. She loves her body, and she charms the socks off everyone she meets – guys will do literally anything to get with her.”

Have you ever wondered why an average looking woman can be considered a sexpot while a woman of obvious physical beauty can come across as a faded wallflower? The answer is quite simple: CONFIDENCE.

Having confidence in oneself is the sex goddess key. While it sounds simplistic and easy, becoming a confident person can take years, if not a lifetime. How can you be confident if you think your hips are too wide, your boobs are too small, the teeth are too far apart, the eyes too close together, hair too curly…well, you get it.

Given that nobody is perfect, we all have to come to a place of understanding that who we are is pretty damn good (pardon my language). This has very little to do with your facial features and everything to do with how you see yourself. When I lived in New York, it was fairly easy to be the best version of myself. The Gucci sunglasses, Prada bag, fancy car and name brand jeans helped get me into the swing of New York sex goddess life. However, that is not going to work here in Vancouver, where being real counts for more than having a real Louis Vuitton suitcase.

Thus I have had to re-invent the sex goddess persona in a West Coast format. Here are my recommendations on how to become a sex goddess in our gorgeous city:

Be proud to be yourself. Believe that you are smart, fun, capable, and people enjoy being around you. Just because you can’t do advanced calculus doesn’t make you thick, it only means you are good at other things! Find them and do them.
Be a trendsetter. Wear what flatters you, not what is “in”. Make sure your fanny agrees with the statement you are trying to get across. Although Lululemon is hot, you may not look hot in it. Find something that works for your figure and use it.
Create your own environment. The bar is only as high as you raise it. If you allow people around you to misbehave or say rude, unsophisticated things, you become the company you keep. If you ever so politely express your discomfort with, say, people who choose to burp in your presence, you will quickly see their behaviour become more respectful.
Don’t believe everything you hear. Other people’s opinions are just that, other people’s opinions. They are cheap and everybody has one. Your opinion must count most in your life. Treat life as blank canvass where every day you get the chance to add any colours you like. Do not accept a colour just because your mother likes it, or if all your friends use it. Always analyse comments from others before accepting them as your truth.
Find your own path. It might mean moving to a new city or trying a new career. Not everyone is meant to be married, not everyone is meant to have children, and not everyone is destined for a big career. Discover what you really want for yourself, and then make it happen.
Scare the heck out of yourself. This is a big one. Do something that you don’t think you can do, and you will believe in yourself even more once you accomplish it!

Substitute “flip-flops” for “killer heels” and “comfortable clothes” for “classy threads,” adopt these ideas in your own way, and you can become the West Coast equivalent of a New York sex goddess. It’s all about confidence girls, so go to it and get out there!